The Life Book E-Course
Make plans and goals based on radical kindness
The Life Book E Course.
The e-course helps you to create your very own Life Book: figure out your big picture and make some soulful goals that actually stick.
What is The Life Book?
This is a planning and review process my husband and I came up with 10 years ago. Over this decade of trial and error, we have designed a system that results in meaningful reflection and planning with heart: a system that really works. It has become integral to the happiness of well, everything. It combines great big dreaming with really practical planning in a gentle, accessible format. It guides you to find your big picture and create goals that help you get there, even in small ways. It’s all about making goals that feel good (rather than like punishments) and it’s totally adaptable to your life and circumstances, whether you work a busy 9-5, part time from home, whether you’re a stay at home parent, retired. It works whether or not you have kids or are in a relationship. Its approach is holistic, although if you want to laser down on a few key areas the system supports that, too. I’m proud of this process, which is rooted in radical kindness, harnesses the power of our feelings and embraces change and flexibility.
I’m not going to tell you what you should include or how you can craft a ‘perfect life’. I’m not a coach or a therapist. I’m a person who loves to write and journal, who loves to plan and reflect. And this process has been tried and tested over 10 years, first by me, then by friends, then by others who caught wind and wanted in. This is the very best version yet, incorporating all the mistakes and changes we’ve learned from along the way.
Why The Life Book is different
This is goal setting for non perfect people
There is so much planning and goal setting advice out there either makes me feel exhausted just reading it, or completely inadequate. My system is built for people who mess up, change their minds, for recovering perfectionists, people juggling a lot, people living with mental or physical health conditions, for those with caring responsibilities, etc. Life isn’t perfect, and neither are we, and this process gives plenty of space for that.
It’s radically kind
My whole process prompts kindness at every turn. Lots of frameworks use self punishment and feelings of not good enough as the motivation, but my system gets you to ask if the goal is rooted in kindness, and encourages positive self talk. It’s kind but It’s not always easy. Sometimes the kindest thing we can do for ourselves is the hardest.
It’s conscious of societal bias
We’re living in an intrinsically unfair society that means that some have more to fight to simply do life than others, especially BIPOC, LGBTQ+ and disabled folk. Some live with mental or physical health conditions that limit what they can do. Some have kids or are caring for elderly relatives. All of these things add varying levels of pressure to what can be managed outside of simply surviving.
It’s cool with change
Life is in constant motion. We have no idea what the future holds. It’s fine and actually healthy, that our goals change and pivot and grow. How many of us have made an annual goal, only to completely forget about it until 12 months later?! In fact, in the Life Book course, a sign of a thriving goal is that it is being tweaked and worked on. In other words, a living goal, not a defunct forgotten one. If a goal needs to pivot, change or be completely scrapped, it’s fine! Better that than it be forgotten in some dusty journal somewhere.
There are no failures
I also don’t really believe in failures. If a goal hasn’t happened, then it provides interesting information and some lessons to learn. That’s all. It’s not a failure.
It encourages feelings
Lots of life and business advice encourage a dispassionate, fact based approach to goals. The patriarchal society we live in dismisses feelings more wholly, as feminine hysteria but I believe there is deep wisdom in our feelings whether you define as female or not. Whilst numbers and facts play a part here, allowing our feelings to guide us connects us to our intuition and deeper wisdom.
Tell me more!
The Life Book is effective because of how little we stop to just look at our lives. We get so caught up in the details of our everyday that we forget to stick our heads up above the noise and just look at where we are against where we’d like to be. It’s so simple, yet so flippin’ powerful.
It is primarily an individual process, a gift to yourself, an investment in your own hopes and dreams.
It can also be done with your partner or family which can be incredibly rewarding. I have seen again and again, both in my relationship and in the relationships of previous Life Bookers, that doing parts of this process with your partner can lead to surprising and even life changing discussions.
I want to share this process with you and help you create your own plan, customised exactly to your life and what you need and want; so you can create your very own Life Book.
You may have heard me or others speak about this process as “The January Book” which is what it was originally named. However I changed the name of it to the Life Book because the system is applicable all year round, and this is about far more than January musings, this is a process to guide you throughout the whole year and beyond.
Join me if…
You want a (very) tried and tested planning process that is kind, flexible and offers practical help in making achievable goals that feel great.
You don’t always manage to reach your goals and tend to beat yourself up for it.
You struggle to make time for yourself and your own dreaming and planning.
You’re ready to try a planning process that is based on radical kindness to ourselves
You are ready to delve deep into your hopes and dreams, and also take the really practical action steps to make them happen
You’d like my downloadable and printable annual, quarterly, monthly, weekly and daily planning sheets.
You would like 5 weeks of hand holding and gentle prompts to help you integrate the Life Book plans into your daily life.
You’d like to learn how I use the Life Book and hear about how I integrate it with my journal and daily life.
You want to be part of an online community who are all working through the same process, to share ideas and inspiration with.
It comprises of 5 modules of written content
Introduction: some practical tips and some of the underpinning principles of the process.
Module one: Big Picture. Guidance on taking some time to think about the wider picture of your life- How do we figure out what we want? How might it feel to be there? How do we make it happen?
Module two: Categories. Here we figure out which areas of your life you’d like to focus on and nurture with this process.
Module three: Looking back, looking forward, Here we’ll look back with kindness, find the positives and the lessons learned, then look ahead and focus on setting goals that come from a place of love. We talk a lot about the power of feelings, and the importance of the language we use.
Module Four: in this module we get really REALLY practical. I’ll take you though the exact process I use to integrate it into my everyday. (Every time I write this, in my mind Olivia Newton John sings ”Lets get physical” but replace ‘physical’ with ‘practical’. Anyway)
Conclusion. Talking about making it work for you.
7 goal setting and planning printable sheets for you to work through.
Content is written, with corresponding video and audio.
PLUS access to the bonus library of resources:
Huma Quereshi’s essay about private journal-keeping not just as a place to observe yourself for your well-being, but also to stretch yourself in terms of expression and language. She discusses using writing as a way of exploring feelings and words and being open about where that can lead. You can find more about Huma here
Ray Dodd’s video on mindset. She covers the power of the stories we tell ourselves and specifically how beliefs become things. You can find Ray here.
Nicola Rae Wickham’s video. Nicola is trained in NLP and teaches us about the way our language affects our behaviour. She talks about how our brains work and why so many of us set goals that we are excited about initially but then just don't carry it through. (Nicola’s website)
A video from both Dave and I about how the process has helped our relationship. Some of the mistakes we have made, the changes to the process that have helped, some of the surprises that have come up along the way, and how the process encourages us to work on it.
Plus more from new special guests to be announced! *
A Facebook support group:
There is an accompanying closed Facebook group for members to share any questions or thoughts. During the course, I’ll show you parts of my own Life Book and journal. There will be prompts and questions and talking points, and discussing lots of practical tips to keep momentum with The Life Book through the year.
E-course spaces are non refundable and non transferable.
Pay what you can spaces
I always offer Pay What You Can spaces on my courses. When considering how inclusive the E-Course is, we considered those intersections of marginalisation (LGBTQIA+, black/POC, disabled) that make access hard. We offer a pay what you can place to someone on a low income, and particularly to those who identify in the above categories. Please get in touch with me directly at hpbullivant (at) gmail.com You will not be asked for any proof and your disclosure is private.
The course starts on Tuesday 23rd April, and we’ll focus on a new module each week on Tuesdays. I will do a live Q&A in the facebook group on Thursdays to answer any questions. It will wrap up on Friday 24th May.
Here’s some of the lovely things past students have said about the course❤.
“I just can't believe how writing the Life Book and starting journaling has changed my mindset, my habits, my night-table! :) It's been a game changer for me.” Lucy Leite
“I wanted to let you know I have absolutely loved the course. Doing the Life Book process genuinely changed my plan for this year - possibly even my life, if that's not too big a claim. I was feeling so stuck in my career, and couldn't visualise what it would look like to change what I was doing. Going through the process made me clarify what I actually want from my work, and helped me make some huge decisions. I am so excited about the year to come now.” Katie Sadler
“I am loving the Life Book E-Course. It's been a very gentle and kind way to ease into the new year and help me to think about how I'd like to approach different areas of my life this year without freaking out about how fast the time goes by and how most of the time I'm not even managing to tread water…it feels revolutionary! … It really helped me to forgive myself for not reaching the point I'd hoped to in several of them, and to focus on all the great things that I did achieve… I will definitely be doing the The Life Book again next new year!” Ellen Chapman
“I'm a chronic over-achiever and really struggle to be kind to myself, and your constant reminders to do exactly that were the thing that finally got through and made me think about being gentler on myself when making short and long term dreams and goals… The course was so well structured, and your videos added so much depth and context to each module; Since starting the course I've been allowing myself to dream more, I've made goals and plans, I've started to journal regularly and above all I've learned to be a bit kinder to myself when setting expectations. Thanks so much for all of it, you need to triple the price if you run it again!” Jo Greene
“I wanted to write a bit of feedback to say how much your honesty and warmth have helped me. My husband and I had some fantastic chats using your structures, and I really believe the approaches that you (and your special guests!) have taught me will be a big part of planning for happier times ahead. …t I wanted to say thank you now for a fantastically great value e-course (my first e-course!). Thank you for allowing us into your lives and sharing so generously your hard-won wisdom.” Alex Wall
“Writing down the Big Picture is a mega game changer! I am feeling so proud and happy that a lot of the things that are on there are already part of my life! If you hadn’t suggested it, by this time this year I would only focus on the things I didn’t do. Hannah thank you so much! I am already feeling much more intentional and I’ve made some great changes!” Rinke Bartlelink