I can confirm that starting labour with a celebratory chippy tea and Prosecco is a wonderful way to begin the most truly epic work you’ll ever undertake. We returned home feeling calm and excited and Dave put Frankie, our 5 year old, to sleep. I wanted to keep oxytocin flowing, and prevent my body going into ‘high alert’ so got I got in to bed and watched some Gilmore Girls (my pregnancy/new born days guilty pleasure) during which I was breathing through my rapidly increasing surges.
"He was born amid a spring time storm with midwives and doula whiling past the still hours by the crackling fire and Dave supporting you as you moaned and hummed and worked"
Lucy, my wonderful doula.
I first gave birth 5 years ago; an experience that veered between not ideal and pretty damn traumatic, albeit with the sweetest ending. The preeclampsia that had threatened since week 34 finally reared its ugly head at 37 weeks, along with puffer fish levels of swelling and a huge amount of protein in my urine, and I was induced. We were relatively informed about our options and felt like we advocated for ourselves pretty well given the knowledge we had at the time. But I found the induction unfathomably fast and frighteningly painful. My body went into shock I felt like a kitten drowning; feebly battling merciless waves of pain. My baby went into distress, the doctors lost her heartbeat, and she was dragged out of me in an emergency ventouse birth. My experience of this birth firmed up the belief I already held about myself; that I simply cannot cope with pain. That calm birthing is for other women, stronger women. Not me. Read More
Whilst we don't have the space for Auden to have his own room, I wanted to spend some time creating a sweet nook for my sweet babe in our bedroom. At some point in the next few months we will transform Frankie's bedroom into a room for two (I've started designing it, I cant wait to get started!) so this is where my baby nesting compulsion was funnelled. It's a tiny room so it was somewhat challenging, but I really love it.
As well as a detailed birth plan, I also made a postnatal plan which involved resting in bed as much as possible. So my baby nook preparation went hand in hand in refreshing my bed and bedroom too to make it as cosy and welcoming as possible. I'm so glad I went to the effort to do this! Read More
Blossom orbs are dripping from the trees and tulips are ripening and sprouting in multicoloured hues around my town. The morning birdsong seeps joyously through my open windows and we’ve even had our first barbecue. Spring is such a joyful month, and all the more so as I get to witness the bursting forth of all this beautiful new life with my own newborn babe.
The Spring light often necessitates a spring clean, a shift around and a declutter and I promised weeks ago that I would share my recipes for homemade cleaning supplies. Read More
Things have been a lot quieter around here than usual, and for longer than I intended, but here's why! My sweet Auden finally came to join us at 42 weeks and has filled up my life and heart in a way I didn't think was possible. He is called Auden River Birch Bullivant; Auden (like the poet, although not named after him, Dave chose it and I loved it. It means "Old Friend"), River (our second choice boys name) Birch (Frankie wanted to call him Birchington On sea- a place we go past on the way to Margate on the train, so Birch is in reference to that, she is thrilled about it!) He is a sweet, super chilled baby... Read More